NCFR has a Book Club twice a year. In the fall of 2010, we read Robert Milardo's book, Forgotten Kin: Aunts and Uncles.  One of the Book Club participants has a story to tell about it, and I have permission to tell it here. A few identifying factors will be changed for privacy, but the essential story remains. Our participant--let's call her Mary--read the book and soon applied the content with wonderful results.